Sexy Romance versus Erotica Romance

kinkyThis post is in response to Historical Romance – How Much Heat is Too Much?

The original post is by Evangeline Collins, author of Her Ladyship’s Companion (releases in May 2009).

In the comments I explored what I thought made the difference between a sexy romance and an erotica romance and then I thought it deserved to be explored some more.

I agree with Evangeline that the lines are blurring but will the line ever disappear? My guess is not anytime soon.


How are sexy romance and erotica romance the same or merging?

Both types of romances can have vanilla or kinky sex. It can be explicit and it can be blush inducing… it can turn you on and rev you up. Yummy.

How are they different?

As I said it’s not so much anymore that the sex is there and is explicitly described; both types of romance write it and write it well. The main difference that I see is language. The diction between sexy romance and erotic romance are two very different types of words.

Sexy romance still uses in many cases the tame terminology romance has used since the beginning. I say tame because it’s many times wrapped in euphemisms. It’s still polite.

Examples: cock, center, sheath, thrusting, pumping, bundle of nerves.

Erotica romance takes the words people use today and waves it like a banner. It’s not your mother’s romance in other words… pardon the pun. Modern/urban colloquial terms are the cornerstones of erotica.

Examples: cock (hey it’s versatile!), dick (even though old romances used it, it’s not used now in sexy romance [or if it is I haven’t seen it]), cunt, pussy, twat, fucking.

Wrapping up:

They are also different because erotica romance also has a history of ménage a trios/multiple partner sex. Same sex stories currently fall under erotica. Do I expect this to change? Yes and no. I expect the forbidden aspect will fall to the wayside and some sexy romances will start incorporating multiple partners/same sex. However, I doubt sexy romance which is firmly entrenched in romancelandia will ever buy into more than one soul mate at a time as romance’s cornerstone is the perfect match, the happily ever after.

How about you? Do you think the lines are blurring or have blurred all they’re going to blur?

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3 thoughts on “Sexy Romance versus Erotica Romance”

  1. I think the lines that seperate the two will not blur.
    I believe author’s in their genres take pride in their writing style & will not merge over to the other side so to speak. Erotica romance will continue to be books–you’ll never read to your grandma & sexy romance will continue to be “tamer “in nature (books with sexy talk we don’t cringe hearing). Each type has a following so there’s no need to fear—losing readers.

  2. I see them as remaining very different. As a reader I enjoy both, but I look for in Romance what I look for in a good Hollywood love story. I’m looking to be aroused when I look for Erotica. Not equating it to a porn movie, though. That’s porn literature. Erotica is more the equivalent of a ‘Cinemax After Dark’ cable series. It’s often about love, but primarily it’s about two people enjoying sensual pleasures together. (The separation from Porn is more in style than in content, but this is true both in video and literary form.)

    I can’t write Romance, but I love writing Erotica (sadly most of it deleted by my father while I was still minor!) I’m write very dark stuff, horror-erotica, which is what I suppose a horror fan should read if she wants to get aroused. To me though, that’s the difference.

    It’s probably in the individual though. As a Lesbian, I don’t read traditional Romance inserting myself as the heroine. I still read Romance, even though the characters are straight, because I love a good love story. If that confuses straight women, just think about how many heterosexuals appreciated ‘Bareback Mountain’ a couple years ago. It’s the same thing.

  3. Hard to say. I don’t read a lot of erotica, but it’s definitely becoming more widely accepted and available. It used to be you couldn’t find it in book stores at all (not around here, anyway), but now you can. And the readership for erotica and romance is also blurring.

    On the other hand, it seems like sexuality in romance tends to go through phases. I think romances are actually less sexually explicit now than they were a few years ago. Maybe the boundaries between erotica and romance will become more sharp instead of less.

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