Comments on: Why is Modern Day Virginity Unattractive?

By: Lyd

Lyd — Wed, 13 Jul 2011 02:57:59 +0000

I was so glad to read ur article, im a 26 yr old virgin who’s struggled with the temptation of sex and the pressure of almost every guy putting pressure on. I kind of wish that if im not allowed to comment on other peoples promiscuity, sexual preferences or life choices, i shouldnt have to be ashamed of not screwing around.
Be proud of who you are and the choice youve made, its not easy, but i think its worth it.

By: May K

May K — Wed, 16 Jun 2010 19:18:47 +0000

I’m a 21 year old virgin and I don’t really care if people find out. I’m waiting for the right man and will not “settle.” Am I looking for a rich, bronze, white-knight-in-shining-armor to save me? Hell no. I can save myself thank you very much.

By: Layla!

Layla! — Sun, 17 Jan 2010 22:44:37 +0000

YOU GO GIRL!!!!!!!!

By: elizabeth gregorio

elizabeth gregorio — Sat, 08 Aug 2009 15:47:04 +0000

i salute all of you who for posting all of your experiences. i am 33 and never slept with any man before and until now. got also some horrible treatments and insults cause im still virgin at 33, well, nothing is wrong with us, when we choose to wait for the right time, place and with the right person.

By: Anni

Anni — Tue, 14 Jul 2009 12:34:39 +0000

Great post! I wish my parents or someone would have told me what virginity or losing it really means and how to spot a guy who’s worth it. Instead I grew up in belief that it’s no big deal and learnt the hard way. Recovering from the emotional damage done by relationships that have started the wrong way has (presumably) been much harder than it would have been to avoid all this mess in the first place.

By: Amy

Amy — Sun, 05 Jul 2009 17:54:30 +0000

Thank you so much for this article! I am a happy 23-year-old virgin but it seems that others have a problem with it. I have even been asked by friends if I am a lesbian. “Men” I’ve dated have found out through the grapevine and treated me completely differently and not in a good way. They say the same things that I am a prude, think sex is dirty or hate men/have impossibly high standards. None of which is true and people seem to have a hard time getting past this “big deal” and getting to know the real me. With all this horrible treatment it seems like I’m going to be a virgin a long time if not forever! I don’t think it’s a bad thing that I have enough respect for myself to wait for a decent person, even if he doesn’t exist.

By: Christine

Christine — Fri, 03 Jul 2009 21:30:31 +0000

I am asexual – small, harmless and perfectly healthy minority – and I am happy 38 years old virgin.

By: Sephera Giron

Sephera Giron — Tue, 03 Feb 2009 20:05:21 +0000

I think I was the only one in my high school who graduated a virgin. I was 18 when I lost it too. I don’t regret it. Espcially when I had friends who were having abortions.

When my husband and I split up after ten years of marriage and two kids, I was rather celibate for nearly seven years.

When I met my second husband, I made him”wait” unlike some of the other guys I had dated just before him (because I just wasn’t that into them as potential husbands). He has said to this day he liked the fact I made him wait a few months. We’ve been together seven years, married nearly one.

Nothing wrong with being picky at all….

By: Sharon Lathan

Sharon Lathan — Thu, 22 Jan 2009 23:49:52 +0000

This is an amazing post! I am so glad I stumbled across it, today especially. The hero and heroine of my novel are both virgins. Yes, it is set 200 years ago, but you might be surprised to know the number of negative marks I have received for that choice! Luckily my editor disagrees and thinks it is one of many aspects to my novel that sets it apart. But, just today I received another hateful slur against my ‘sensitive virginal man who cries.’ Ha! Funny how those 3 attributes, apparently wrong ones to possess, go together.

I applaud your choice and wish I had made the same one. I did, however, choose not to sleep with my now husband of 23 years prior to marriage. We consider that choice one of many that has bonded us together and sanctified our marriage.

By: Barton Paul Levenson

Barton Paul Levenson — Mon, 19 Jan 2009 01:18:51 +0000

Right on! God bless you for standing up for yourself and for what you believe in. There is NOTHING wrong with being a virgin. This society wants to rush everyone into sex at as young an age as possible, and putting that kind of pressure on people is just plain wrong.

Some famous people who were virgins all their lives include the greatest scientist of all time, Sir Isaac Newton, and the brilliant illustrator and author of children’s books, Edward Gorey. And Lewis Carroll (Charles Lutwidge Dodgson), Emily Dickenson, Immanuel Kant, Soren Kierkegaard, Hans Christian Anderson. Not an underachiever in the bunch.

I lost it at 18 and was completely sexually out of control in college, basically jumping into bed with anyone who was interested. I wish to God now that I had exercised a little more self-control. A lot fewer people, including me, would have experienced unnecessary rejection, jealousy, embarrassment, and general pain. I met the woman I eventually married at 19 but didn’t stop sleeping around until I was 23. I regret now that I was such a slut, but it’s too late.

How do I tell someone who’s wondering about it, I went hog-wild over sex in college but you shouldn’t? Among other things, I’ve lost the ability to effectively warn others.

Though I should add, of course, that while promiscuity is a sin, it’s not the worst of the sins. The worst sins are not the carnal ones, but the spiritual ones — pride, spite, envy, anger, contempt, desire for vengeance. That will damn you quicker than sleeping around. But of course, it’s better to do neither.